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Alone. When was the last time you were alone? With nothing but the distinct thumping of your heart, the ragged sound of your own breaths? When was the last time you realised even silence has a sound?  Society has romanticised the concept of being with someone to a stifling degree. It’s always made to be shown like you constantly need someone with you. Be it a lover, a friend, a parent, a sibling, an acquaintance - but you just have to have someone with you constantly. Why? Society forgets, that being alone isn’t the same thing as being lonely. And it doesn’t stop there. You need to be able to hold a conversation well. You need to be abreast with current issues to sound intellectual. General knowledge ceases to be a thing of curiosity or keenness to learn; it becomes a standard for judging someone’s IQ. You need to be fun, interesting, goofy, witty, sarcastic, humorous; when did human interaction cease being natural and start resembling a job profile? Why do you have to know every c...

A few months after experiencing heartbreak, I found myself reflecting on the journey I had taken. After countless nights of tears, I realized I was walking a different path. It was rocky and challenging, yet as I moved forward, I discovered fragments of myself—pieces that felt broken. With patience and care, I began to gather these shards, gently placing them back into my heart until I felt whole again. Now, I can confidently say that I've moved on and am taking steps forward, signaling that there’s no turning back. While this chapter may have closed, the memories we shared will forever remain etched in my mind. What once felt like a heavy burden has transformed over time into a lesson that taught me resilience. I cherish those memories like precious diamonds, knowing that, as the saying goes, diamonds are forever. My perspective on life has evolved. It’s no longer solely focused on heartaches, financial struggles, or family issues. I believe in the power of self-faith; with it, y...

Choosing not to be brave enough to tackle the challenges in your life that may end up hurting you, will definitely end up hurting you in the long run when we refuse to even attempt to take those risks. Sometimes the best way to learn is from our own past experiences, and if we have no eye-opening experiences that we committed in the past, chances are we are going to encounter future instances and challenges in our lives that we will have to learn from one day. Going through our lives we have to remember that it sometimes takes knowing how failure may come so that we can best avoid it and receive a victory. Excelling in life means that we must be brave and that there will be mistakes we make when we are going for what is in our hearts. We don't ever really know what success really means until we have failed before seeing success.

 As I navigate my 30s, I find myself reflecting deeply on the journey that has shaped me into the person I am today. Like many, I’ve encountered my fair share of regrets—moments when I wish I had made different choices or taken different paths. Yet, through these regrets, I’ve come to realize that they have become powerful teachers in my life. Regrets can take their toll, weighing heavily on the mind and heart. I’ve often found myself lost in the “what ifs,” replaying decisions and their outcomes. However, with time, I’ve learned that dwelling on the past doesn’t lead to growth; instead, it’s about how we respond to those experiences that truly matters. This realization has sparked a transformative journey of self-awareness and accountability. Self-awareness has been crucial in understanding my emotions and motivations. I’ve started to recognize patterns in my behavior—why I make certain decisions, how I react in various situations, and what drives me to pursue specific goals. By c...

Words are beautiful. To create them, I let my fingers dance across the keys in a soothing, almost therapeutic rhythm. In doing so, my thoughts and emotions spill out—sentiments that will reach minds far away, those who can't hear my voice anymore. Today, you are just another one of those distant souls I can no longer touch. And so, here are words I’ll never say to the man I once knew but who has slipped beyond my reach. Let me tell you what it’s like to be told you are everything—perfect, cherished, protected. Let me show you the emotions that surge through a young woman’s heart when she’s led to believe she is someone's "forever." There’s a hope, a sense of safety, that blossoms when she lets down walls that she thought would never fall. I let my guard down, piece by fragile piece, as your love drew me closer. But I can’t put into words what it felt like when you took all of that and shattered it into something unrecognizable. There aren’t enough words to capture tha...

 I once had the kind of relationship that many dream of—a partner who treated me with care, respect, and devotion. He was the man who would have moved mountains to see me smile. He planned adventures, showered me with thoughtful gifts, captured every special moment in pictures, fixed things I couldn’t handle, and cooked meals that comforted me on the hardest days. He was the type of man any woman would be grateful to have, the man others might call “the perfect guy.” And yet, here I am, admitting that I chose to walk away. It’s not easy to explain why I left someone who loved me so well. The truth is, it wasn’t because of anything he did wrong—it was because of me. I fell out of love, not because of him, but because I lost my connection to myself. I was in a place where I felt completely lost, spiraling in what might have been a quarter-life crisis. I didn’t understand myself, my needs, or my desires. I was floating, struggling to find the ground beneath my feet, and I knew deep do...

How are you? I noticed you've changed. A lot, actually. You've been flirting a little more than usual even when you're on a date. Complaining about your job and how exhausting it is while others struggle to get one. Breaking hearts here and there. Forgiveness seems a very hard thing for you to give away lately. It looks like money is all that matters to you now. How you look, how people are gonna see you, what they're gonna say. You smile when others compliment you. You think about those things pretty much all the time. Loud music, drinking on an empty stomach, dancing. That's your thing, I get it. It seems like a very nice escape. Especially when you're covering something up - your loneliness. But hey, mean girl, never forget who you are. How many friends you have, how many people like you because you're just... you. How simple and funny you are even without the expensive things you buy. That's how you earned your friends. By being who you are. And yes,...