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Life has a peculiar way of throwing us into extremes—either drowning us in the depths of intense emotions or leaving us adrift in a sea of nothingness. Having experienced both, I often find myself wondering: which is worse? Feeling everything all at once, or feeling nothing at all? There was a time in my life when emotions were like relentless waves crashing over me. Whether it was love, heartbreak, anger, or grief, every feeling burned with an intensity that consumed me. In relationships, I gave all of myself, only to find that loving deeply also meant hurting deeply. Family moments, too, carried this intensity. Celebrations felt euphoric, but misunderstandings could spiral into soul-crushing despair. There was no middle ground. I remember nights where the pain of an argument with a loved one made it hard to breathe, as if the weight of the world had settled on my chest. And yet, those moments of intense feeling reminded me that I was alive. The highs made the lows bearable because at...

 Here I am, living a life I couldn’t have imagined just a few years ago. Today, I work as a virtual assistant, traveling as much as I can while embracing the freedom that comes with remote work. I can work from practically anywhere, as long as I have a reliable internet connection. This lifestyle has been a dream come true, and I’m filled with gratitude every single day. How It All Started: A Pandemic Shift My journey as a virtual assistant started during the pandemic era—a time of uncertainty for everyone. When the world was forced to slow down, I found myself looking for new opportunities. I stumbled into the virtual assistant world, not fully knowing what I was getting into. It was a time of pivoting and adaptation, but what began as a necessity turned into a blessing. I’m beyond grateful for the path that unfolded. Not only did I find a career that I love, but it’s also given me the freedom to see the world while working. I no longer feel tied down to one place, and this freedo...

 A year ago, a tiny ball of fur bounded into my life, full of energy, sass, and more love than I ever thought possible. My one-year-old Pomeranian, Summer—affectionately known as "Summuruuche"—has a way of bringing a smile to my face, even on the most challenging days. She’s playful, sweet, and, yes, incredibly makulit . But that’s exactly what I adore about her. Summurruchee keeps me on my toes. Whether it's nudging my hand for more cuddles, stealing my slippers for a game of chase, or curling up next to me with those big, loving eyes, she never fails to fill the room with her vibrant energy. She has this knack for annoying me in the cutest way possible—like demanding attention while I’m trying to get work done—but I wouldn’t have it any other way. She’s my little troublemaker, and my heart melts every time she looks at me with that innocent face, as if saying, “Did I do that?” Having her in my life has taught me so much about patience, joy, and what it means to truly lo...

  How Did Your Day Go? Claiming Peace Amid the Chaos Hey there! How’s your day been? Whether it’s been smooth or a bit of a rollercoaster, I’m glad you’re here. Take a moment, breathe, and just think: How am I, really? Sometimes we get so caught up in the rush of things—our jobs, family responsibilities, random errands—that we forget to simply check in with ourselves. Today, let’s do that together. Maybe your day wasn’t exactly easy. Perhaps some stress or negativity began to creep in, reminding you of unfinished tasks or situations that feel out of your hands. I get it; those little frustrations can seem relentless. But here's the thing: when stress or negativity starts knocking at the door, we have a choice. We can either let them take over or gently close that door and declare, “I refuse to focus on what I can’t control or change.” It's not easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight, but you can claim your peace. Imagine your mind like a beautiful room you’ve decorated just the ...

It Ends with Us , a film based on Colleen Hoover’s bestselling novel, invites viewers into a poignant narrative that explores the complexities of love, trauma, and the cycle of pain. As I watched the story unfold, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own experiences and the broader implications of the journey toward healing. The film centers on Lily Bloom, a young woman who falls in love with Ryle Kincaid, a charming neurosurgeon with a dark side. As their relationship deepens, it becomes increasingly apparent that Ryle struggles with inner demons, ultimately revealing a cycle of abusive behavior that resonates with Lily’s past. The parallels between her relationship and her childhood experiences with her father’s abusive nature expose the emotional scars that can follow us into adulthood. One of the most striking elements of It Ends with Us is how it sheds light on the impact of trauma and the choices we make in the face of pain. Lily’s struggle to reconcile her love for Ryle with the r...

  Looking Forward: The Beauty of What’s Yet to Come There’s a moment that happens when we least expect it: the realization that our best days may not be behind us, but rather, lying ahead. It’s hard to see in those times when life feels stagnant or challenging, where we might feel like the greatest experiences and happiest moments are already written in the pages of our past. Yet, it’s in these moments that a new story is waiting to unfold, if only we knew. Looking back, each of us can remember the times when we were sure that life couldn’t get any better. The thrilling excitement of certain firsts, like a job that was a dream come true, or the love we thought would last forever, or the adventure that made us feel alive. There was a beauty in the newness, in the way we opened ourselves up to life with all of its possibilities. But the truth is, no matter how amazing those moments were, they don’t hold a monopoly on happiness or fulfillment. Life has a surprising way of reinventing ...

Block out the noise: Don’t let others dictate your path. Live a life that feels true and empowering to you. Release the past: Don’t let a bad yesterday steal the joy from a good day today. Trust in time: Time has a way of healing everything. Focus on your journey: The only competition that matters is the person you were yesterday. Stay at ease: It’s perfectly fine not to have all the answers. Trust that you’ll figure things out in time. Adjust the approach: If the plan isn’t working, change the strategy, but never the end goal. Own your happiness: Remember, your happiness is in your hands. Keep smiling: Life is short, so make the most of it and enjoy every moment.

In January 2024, my heart grew even fuller when I welcomed another baby dog into my life—SuMmurr, or as I lovingly call her, Just SumMur. Unlike her older brother Weewee, who has his little bear-like charm, SuMmurr is a fox-type Pomeranian with her own unique personality and quirks. She’s this bundle of energy and sass that brightens my days, and life with her has been nothing short of an adventure. SuMmurr is my sweet little ray of sunshine, always ready to bring her vibrant energy into the room. She’s super active and always seems to be on the move, but what sets her apart is how much she loves to be home. While Weewee is all about traveling and watching the world go by from the car window, SuMmurr is the complete opposite—she’s the ultimate homebody. When we’re on the road, she prefers to curl up and sleep, completely unbothered by the outside world, and when she’s not napping, she’s playfully disturbing poor Weewee. It’s hilarious to watch her poke him awake as if saying, “Why are ...

 On May 23, 2022, I welcomed a little bundle of fur into my life, and nothing has been the same since. Wintur, my baby Pomeranian, who I lovingly call Weewee, was more than just a pet from the start—he became my constant source of joy and comfort. With his adorable double fur and bear-like appearance, it’s impossible not to fall head over heels for him. Weewee came into my life at a time when I needed him the most. I was dealing with some internal battles, and his presence became a soothing balm for my soul. It’s funny how something so small could have such a profound impact. Whenever I felt overwhelmed or needed to escape my own thoughts, Weewee was there, his eyes full of understanding and warmth. Without saying a word, he became my little therapist, giving me the strength to push through tough days. But life threw a curveball at us not long after. The condo I lived in didn’t allow pets, and as heart-wrenching as it was, I had to let Weewee stay with my brother for a whole year. ...

Thank you, Primo, for always keeping us safe, protected, and comfortable. We will love you forever. It fills my heart with so much emotion to hand you over to your new owner, knowing they will care for you just as we did. Please take care of them as you did for us. Now, we welcome you, AA (Amethyst Angel), to the family! Your name holds the meaning of deep love, happiness, humility, sincerity, and abundance. We’re beyond excited to embrace you, our second car. Thank you, God, for this blessing!  10/17/2024

Everyone knows that friends come and go, but for the longest time, I believed I would be the exception. From a young age, I craved acceptance. I wanted to belong, to be seen, to have that special connection with people who understood me. When I started at a new school in sixth grade, I hoped to find those friends. I had classmates I hung out with, but as the "new girl," I always felt a little on the outside. Then, one day, I noticed two girls, Marjorie and Krishcia. They were always together, and whenever I saw them, they’d smile at me. Something about their energy made me want to be friends with them. And just like that, we clicked. By high school, we were inseparable. They became my day one friends—the ones you share everything with. We experienced so many "firsts" together: our first sleepovers, our first night out with permission from my mom, our first taste of alcohol, our first cigarette, and even our first little heartbreaks—those first puppy loves that didn’...

As a teenager, I watched my mom every Sunday go to church, kneeling in prayer for what felt like an eternity—15 to 20 minutes of silence, sometimes with tears in her eyes. She wasn’t overly religious, but her devotion was clear. I never truly understood what she was praying about. There was no way I could grasp it then, standing on the outside of her quiet moments with God. It wasn’t until years later, in 2022, that I found myself in a position to truly understand. At that time, I was on the edge, overwhelmed by things I couldn't fix or control. I had always prayed, sure, but my prayers felt more like habits, something I did just for the sake of doing them. It wasn’t until that moment, sitting in my car, broken and desperate, that I cried out to God with a humble heart. I begged Him for help with all my soul, tears streaming down my face. And after that prayer, something shifted. I felt a peace settle over me—a calm that I hadn’t known in ages. It took a few days, but I began to se...

As a 35-year-old navigating the complexities of single life, the film The Idea of You struck a deep chord within me. The story revolves around a woman who unexpectedly finds herself in a whirlwind romance with a much younger man—a narrative that beautifully explores themes of love, acceptance, and self-discovery. Watching the main character grapple with her feelings was like looking into a mirror. The excitement of newfound love is intoxicating, but it’s also accompanied by the pangs of insecurity and societal expectations. I resonated with her journey of letting go—letting go of past relationships, of self-doubt, and of the fear of what others might think. It’s a reminder that we can embrace new experiences and find joy, regardless of age or societal norms. The film encourages us to redefine our ideas of love and relationships. It challenges the notion that age should dictate our capacity for joy and connection. Instead, it celebrates the beauty of living fully in the present and che...

💘 As a 34-year-old Oppss Just turned 35 😅 navigating life with a great partner, Carry You Home resonates deeply with me. The song captures the essence of love, loyalty, and being there for someone you truly care about. It’s not just a love song—it’s a reminder of how much we grow together as a couple, facing challenges and celebrating triumphs. The lyrics echo a sense of deep support, and in many ways, they remind me of my own relationship. My partner and I, though not married yet, are truly enjoying life together. We’re not in a rush to fit into any molds or timelines. Instead, we’re embracing every moment as it comes, cherishing the bond we’ve built. Listening to "Carry You Home," I couldn't help but feel grateful. The idea of always having someone who will be there to pick you up, to lean on when times get tough, is comforting. It reminds me of how much my partner and I support each other, especially during life’s unpredictable twists and turns. It's not just abo...

Life has a way of surprising us. Sometimes it’s the little moments, the ones you’d never expect to matter, that end up transforming you. And for me, that surprise was my best friend, Rej, whom I call Brandie. Our story started in 2008 or 2009 when she was dating someone I knew. It's funny now, but back then, She thought I might’ve been too close to her then-boyfriend, who, let’s just say, had a bit of a "player" streak. But life has a way of taking the unexpected and turning it into something amazing. That day, any doubts faded as soon as we met face to face. We clicked instantly, like pieces of a puzzle finding their fit, and our bond formed naturally and effortlessly, as if we’d been friends forever. That moment marked the beginning of a friendship that would stand the test of time. From the start, Rej and I were inseparable. We shared everything, from our silliest stories to our deepest fears. Our friendship was filled with laughter, late nights, and endless conversati...

  A Journey of Self-Discovery and Finding Peace Inspired by the song “Growing Sideways” by Noah Kahan Sometimes, life doesn’t move forward the way we expect it to. Instead of climbing higher, we find ourselves wandering in circles, questioning if we’re stuck in the same place. It’s easy to feel like we're failing, like we're falling behind or missing the mark. But what if moving sideways, instead of upwards, is exactly what we need to do to find our true selves? Noah Kahan's song Growing Sideways is a reflection of this experience—of feeling lost, disconnected, and uncertain, but also of the quiet beauty in accepting where we are. The lyrics, raw and real, remind us that the journey to self-discovery isn’t linear. Sometimes we grow in ways we don’t immediately see. Sometimes we have to stumble and falter before we can make sense of who we are. When Moving Forward Feels Impossible We’ve all been there—those moments when it feels like we’re stuck in a rut. The dreams we had ...

 Forgiveness is one of the hardest things we can ever do. It asks us to let go of pain, to release the hurt inflicted by someone we trusted. For me, the road to forgiveness wasn’t easy, and it wasn’t a quick process. It was messy, uncomfortable, and at times, it felt impossible. But eventually, I learned that forgiveness wasn’t about excusing the behavior of others—it was about freeing myself from the weight of what they had done. And in the end, it was about growth and character development, both theirs and mine. I’ve faced my fair share of betrayals, but what makes these wounds cut deeper is that they came not from enemies, but from those I considered friends, and in some cases, family. It’s one thing to be hurt by someone distant, but when the pain comes from people you trusted—people you let into your life—it leaves a mark that’s hard to heal. One experience that still stands out is the time I hired some people to work as my assistants. I trusted them, taught them everything I ...